"Every hand's a winner, every hand's a loser..."
The strains of Kenny Rogers' "The Gambler" set the scene for a unique way to learn how to perform at your peak. This learning experience comes packaged as a boisterous game of Poker.
By time the game is done, participants have learned how to "play their cards right" -- that is, to use their talents and abilities to achieve greater success and satisfaction.
As participants take their seats for the session, at banquet-size "rounds", there's a deck of unusual cards in the center of each table. Of course I'm wearing my
Las Vegas casino-dealer's vest, and trying my best to look like Robert de Niro.
Each participant receives an initial hand of five cards. But these cards each feature a personality characteristic: you might get dealt a hand consisting of Decisive, Curious, Sensitive, Precise, and Imaginative, for example.
To start the game, each player arranges his or her five cards from left to right, indicating well each card happens to reflect their personality. Then, they talk briefly about how well their hands match their real strengths. There's a excited murmur throughout the room , as conferees begin to see how many intriguing traits there are around their table.
Now, the pace picks up. Players get a chance to upgrade their
hands by trading cards with others. They can wheel-and-deal to
get rid of those cards that don't reflect their traits, and assemble
a hand that best describes their as they see them. "Every
gambler knows that the secret to surviving,"
belts out Kenny Rogers, "is knowing what to throw away, and knowing what to keep!"
At this point, creative pandemonium slowly breaks out. (Several hundred people can be involved in this session.) Players start jumping out of their chairs, as they see cards they really want! To maintain decorum, I usually have to use my trusty six-shooters!
Once players have assembled their ideal hand, they are presented with a dilemma -- which dramatizes something we all feel at some points in our lives. They are required to discard two of the traits which they've got in their hand! This reflects the fact that all of us have skills and abilities which we don't get a chance to use. The discussion after this stage of the game brings in some new emotions, as you can well imagine.
In the finale of the poker game -- though not of the session -- each player is invited to tell a little story from their life or career, in which all three of the traits in their hand came into play. "Last year, my boss suddenly resigned. Overnight, I was shoved into her position. I was never so scared -- but looking back, I can see that what saw me through were these three cards here: Energetic, Organized, and Patient..."
These anecdotes are touching, revealing, and instructive. It's wonderful to eavesdrop around the room, hearing people providing glimpses of themselves at their best. And seeing the faces of others who recognize for the first time how different skills than theirs, can make such a difference in people's lives. You may know how useful it is to be energetic, organized, and patient -- but across the table is a person who is proud and successful by being Receptive, Spontaneous, and Impulsive! It makes you think...
Now, based on this very engaging experience, attendees learn what the four "suits" of the deck mean. They signify the four quadrants of Ned Herrmann's "Whole Brain Model" of our mental capabilities. (The card game itself was developed by Ted Coulson and Alison Strickland.)
Using colorful, dramatic transparencies and slides, plus read-outs of the group's preferences (by holding up the colored cards), the sees with their own eyes what "styles" predominate -- sometimes with astonishing results. And each participants work together on how they can use what they've learned to enhance their performance.
"Peak Performance Poker was fantastic -- one of the most
profitable conference sessions we've ever had," says Colonel
Robby Cahill of the Professional Housing Management Association.
"We learned, we had fun, we saw ourselves -- and others --
in fresh, powerful, useful new ways."
Copyright © 1999, Ronald Gross